You two started off well and things were just so effortless. You thought you have met the one you really feel compatible with and you can’t thank the universe enough for the special bound you created together. But not until one day when your friends told you they found your partner on dating apps! Uh oh!
Well, it is painful, since you will tend to count his or her existence on a dating app as cheating. And the fact that you fear things will fizzle out in a snap makes it more painful to imagine. But, even though it is easier said than done, you have to take a deep breath before you pull yourself back together.
- First thing first, re-evaluate the phase of your relationship. You have to know where you stand with him or her now. Are you two on the same page at the same time? Do you guys experience the same level of attraction and connection? Is he or she fully committed to you or still keeping his or her options open? Because if you are the only one making the sacrifices and putting more effort, then you probably already know the answer at this point.
- After you can honestly answer those questions for your own grounding, then spare some time to talk to your partner. Approach and start the conversation from a calm place and be transparent with what you feel. Listen thoroughly to his or her reasons (if not excuses!)
- Check if their reasons are forgivable. For some people, it does not matter what the excuses are, it is just very bothering to find out that your partners are on dating apps.
At the end of the day, it all depends on how much effort you two want to put in the relationship afterwards. You may perceive that there is hope, others may see it as a major deal-breaker and choose to break up because the trust isn’t there anymore, so they leave and find the ones who would ditch the dating apps just to be with them.  But worry not, some other people have the innate capability to build the trust again and take the lesson learned from the past mistakes to grow. Now, you choose!