When it comes to relationship, nobody really knows the rules that can be generalised. We all have to acknowledge that what works for some couples, might not work for others. Because we are all different individuals, as simple as that. However, we all need to be and feel okay with things that are in our lives, as we all deserves to be happy.
We all see different images of relationship that has been portrayed through romantic films, books, even real stories in people that we know. It’s a good to see, hear, and know about the fluttering side of relationship. But, they never really tell a tale of what a healthy relationship is.
Some couples might seem to be the “relationship goals” through the eyes of the outside world, but it might tell a different story behind closed doors. Some relationship might be abusive, and we may never know it. Even worse, we might not realise that we are in one.
What is Abusive Relationship?
Relationship considered as abusive when one person in the intimate relationship dominate and control the other. The sole purpose of this is to gain and maintain total control over the other partner in the relationship.
Whether the stigma that’s still going around about abusive relationship is mainly domestic violence or physical, abusive relationship is so much more than that. Abusive relationship can also mean verbal, emotional, as well as psychological abuse. And, there’s still a lot of people that doesn’t understand about these kind of abuse other than the physical abuse.
While physical abuse might be the more obvious threat, this doesn’t mean that the other kind of abuse is less severe. Other than physical threat, ANY kind of abuse in a relationship may also impact someone’s self worth, as well as leading to anxiety, depression and helplessness.
At the end of the day, as Eleanor Roosevelt said,
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
- nor that anybody has any right to.
So, what’s next?
There’s a lot more that can be talked about regarding abusive relationships. However, the first thing that needs to be talked about is that we need to raise awareness with this issue. Because, we cannot help a situation without acknowledging WHAT the problem is and knowing that IT IS a problem. From there, we can finally figure out any plan that can be done to change things.